1. People really don’t care
There are many articles on the Internet about how to avoid embarrassing situations. And this already seems to tell us that getting into one of them is something terrible. And therefore, having stumbled on an escalator or knocked over a glass of coffee, we begin to worry: what will people think?
Sometimes a person, after an awkward moment, can scroll through it in his head all day, think of how he could have done better, blame himself for hindsight. And in Chekhov’s story “The Death of an Official” an extreme version of the development of events is described. The hero sneezed on the general, and then he was so worried about this that, as the name implies, “lay down on the sofa and … died.”
But both in the story and in life, people around do not pay as much attention to someone else’s clumsiness as to their own. After all, people in principle tend to think about themselves more than about others. Therefore, it is better to deal with awkward situations more easily.
2. Shame and embarrassment are imposed emotions.
When something doesn’t work out for us, we get angry; when we see something funny, we laugh. These are basic emotions. But shame and embarrassment are not like that. For example, if you twist your leg and plop into a puddle in a deserted clean field, you are unlikely to blush and make excuses. Just shrug your shoulders and move on. You will begin to be embarrassed when you go out to people, because your clothes are dirty.
Shame and embarrassment do not exist outside of society. They are a response to the violation of some social set of rules. And embarrassment by others is welcome, because such a reaction, as it were, demonstrates: “I did something wrong, but I know that this is not very approved. So I’ll try to avoid it in the future.”
But it is possible in another way: some things do not have to be embarrassed and ashamed at all. These emotions are unpleasant and they are not yours. So, once in an awkward situation, you can not be tormented at all and not feel anything about it. Shrug your shoulders and move on.
However, embarrassment in itself is useful, but more on that later.
3. Awkward Situations Can Strengthen Relationships
We have already figured out that embarrassment is an emotion that is formed thanks to society. At the same time, it plays an important social function.
Research showthat people who tend to show their embarrassment more openly in awkward situations are generally kinder and more generous to others. It works the other way too. Observers who noticed the embarrassment of a person, consideredthat it is more reliable and trustworthy.
4. Awkward situations teach you to get out of difficulties with dignity.
Mistakes of all kinds are stressful. But in itself there is nothing wrong, problems begin when he is with us all the time. In general, it involves the mobilization of all resources in order to emerge victorious from the situation.
Stress reactions can be different – not only “fight or flight”, but also “freeze” or “cooperate”. Human response produced as a result of self-learning of the body and brain on information about previous stressful situations.
So all kinds of awkwardness can be perceived as training, preparation for real life difficulties. First, you will learn to pull yourself together after you called Alexander Alexei, and then you can handle everything else.
5. Awkwardness boosts creativity
Doesn’t sound very logical, but the researchers insist that such a relationship exists. Social psychologists asked some participants in the experiment to talk about situations that they are proud of, and others about which they are ashamed. There was also a control group, whose members simply talked about neutral everyday things. After that, the subjects had to complete a creativity exercise. The “embarrassed” respondents offered more ideas, and they were more diverse than those of their “proud” counterparts and the control group. The study was then repeated and the results were similar.
So periodically sharing embarrassing stories as a group can make your brainstorming sessions more effective. And in order to have something to talk about, you need to get into awkward situations.